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“Ways to Succeed With Getting Buy In For Change”

In this post, I discuss Implementing change with little resistance.

So if you want to make change without hearing bitching, make your department better, and experience less headaches, keep reading!

– What looks like resistance is often a lack of clarity.
– If you want people to change, you must provide crystal-clear direction
– What looks like a people problem is often a situation problem
– Why, What, How
– Examples
– first thing apparatus checks
– riding assignments
– Hose load

The problem is communicating to the receiver in a teaching scenario. You have to teach at the person’s understanding level that they’re at. You cannot teach at your understanding level. If you are teaching something, then you most likely have a great deal of knowledge and experience in the subject. Whoever the students are most likely do not have much knowledge or experience in that area. This is why it is crucial to teach at the level of understanding that they have.

Another problem area is how clear we think we are communicating. We think we’re clear and guess what, we’re not, that’s why I do expectations with every crew member. That’s why I have rules of engagement. That’s why I send out a daily agenda. It’s a lot of repetitiveness but when you’re repeating the same thing it becomes more clear. So if people aren’t doing what you want it is most likely because you’re not being as clear with what you want ask you think you are.

When its all said and done, if you get the environment right, you’re going to produce quality results.

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“Ways to Succeed With Getting Buy In For Change”

“Caring For Your People Advice Every Check The Box Leadership Certifications Hater Will LOVE!”

In this post, I discuss the book: Everybody Matters: The Extraordinary Power of Caring for Your People Like Family and I discuss caring for your people so you can build a high performing team.

So if you want to all out effort, all in attitude, and have fun at work so you can how to get the most out of those around them, keep reading!

Below are the top 5 highlights I had from the book.

– We are social animals and we respond to the environments we’re in.

– We are going to measure success by the way we touch the lives of people.

– Good parenting and good leadership are virtually identical.

– Treat each employee the way you would like your kids to be treated where they work.

– Be patient with those who don’t “get it”: People may have been abused by other leaders. Give them time and space to heal.

Now lets dive a little deeper.

“We are social animals and we respond to the environments we’re in.”
If you go put someone in a group of guys that are just negative and don’t want to do anything, not take care of themselves, you’re going to see that person start molding to that type of behavior. I’ve seen it plenty of times, I’ve also seen it on the flip side, you actually take those people and you put them with people that are motivated, like they work out every day on to training and it really amped about it. You’re going to start seeing those people form to that behavior. So atmosphere plays a big part. It goes along with the nature versus nurture thing. Atmosphere is a big influence. Now you can resist the negativity, but it’s harder, right? If you’re around the good stuff, it’s going to be easier for you to be good and keep that positivity with it.

“We are going to measure success by the way we touch the lives of people”.
So how do you measure success? Some people measure success by the size of their bank account. Some measure their success by how many bugles they have. Imagine the possibilities if we measure success by how many people we’ve helped? Thats a pretty big impact in my book.

“Good parenting and good leadership are virtually identical.”
Parenting and good leadership are virtually identical, I talked about this in my book Fix Your Firehouse
You have to be patient with kids and you have to be patient to be a good leader. Both require you to understand the situation and listen.

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Influencing People Basics Every Firefighter Needs

The basics that we need to help start influencing people and how to get rid of that negativity that’s going on.

So a real simple response to negativity is Misery loves company, so don’t engage in it.

It’s hard, you know, these might be simply answers, but they’re hard to do and that’s why most people don’t do it. The first thing is don’t go down the rabbit hole of negativity. Try and maintain yourself positive, especially if you’re the leader of a group because the minute you go down that negative route, your crew’s going to start following it. So the first step is you don’t go down that road.

A next step is start reframing some of the conversations with people focusing on what’s working as opposed to what is not working.

Busy crews rarely become negative. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve become busier. I have different concerns and different stressors. Little things that used to bother me in my twenties, I could care less right now. Go out and train in your first due area, learn your buildings, do some fire behavior videos, build some props together, whatever it may be. The busier you keep yourself doing result driven activities, the better off things are going to get. Well, Keep your crew busy doing stuff that’s actually making them better and feel good, so they feel accomplished after they do it. Not just, cleaning the station, no one likes busy work, but if it’s going to get us to a specific better result, we’re all on board, right?

A great start to help you become a better influencer is the book “how to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie”.

I read this many years ago and what I’m actually going to do right now is go through it and talk about some of my highlights. If we started to influence people as opposed to just making demands, we’re going to get much further.

It’s going take more work to influence others. That’s why most people just try to make demands and it’s actually a self inhibited when they go that route. So let’s, let’s get to some of these highlights to share with you guys.

Criticism didn’t persuade

it’s foolish to scold.

Don’t criticize them.

They are just what we would be under similar circumstances.

if you experienced everything that person did, you’d be the same.

You’re dealing with people who were emotional creatures.

instead of condemning people, try to understand them.

Make the other person wants to do it,

Crude methods have sharply undesirable repercussions.

the deepest urge is our desire to be important, to have an audience to feel valued,

The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.

positive reinforcement, honest appreciation, got results were criticism and ridicule failed. I

The next time you’re about to make someone do something, pause and ask yourself, how can I make this person want to do it?

You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.

We are interested in others when they are interested in us. So especially if you’re the boss, get interested in your people. Someone’s going to be the one to take the first step. And to me that’s burden of leadership, to always be the one to take the first step.

Encouragement is much more effective teaching device than punishment is.

One major factor that motivated people was the work itself, so make it quality work and people are gonna want to do it. It’s much easier to get a guy to get satisfaction over, being delegated to put on a drill for his company as oppose to you’re in charge of making sure that all the trash got taken out today.

You will be the most effective when you lead by example. You must be the example for your people to follow.

I was asked once about how to keep my crew with good morale. Its a simple yet challenging task, you keep your own morale high.

Make sure to get yourself a copy of how to win friends, influence people. This is going to start the influence process for you within your fire house. It’s really going to help you level of your leadership and understanding that we get a lot further when we influence people as opposed to just making demands.

So, if you’ve got something out of this, share it with somebody else.

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Influencing People Basics Every Firefighter Needs

The #1 Mentoring Mistake Every Firefighter Must Avoid

I overheard two conversations this week that were both the number one big mistakes that I see firefighters make when it comes to mentoring. Both these guys were getting frustrated. They weren’t getting the results that they wanted.

The first ones was a guy that was complaining about the experience level of his immediate supervisor. He had more experience and the supervisor. When asked, hey, are you going to help them become better? He replied That his boss is responsible for his own experience and that it’s not his job to help him. His boss took the promotion and that’s on him. So that’s one way to look at it. Right?

The second conversation I overheard was a guy that was involved with the honor guard for his department and he was noticing that the new guys coming up didn’t seem to have that same passion for the job or understanding of the brotherhood. He stated, it’s not my job to teach them. They got to figure it out for themselves.

Two different conversations, basically talking about the same thing, both individual saying, it’s not my job. They weren’t getting the results they wanted.

So I’m here to tell you that that’s the big mistake that they don’t want to get involved to fix the issue that’s going on.

With the first guy: if you have a supervisor that is not operating at the experience level that you want, help them, train them, work with them. It was your decision not to take the promotion, either because you didn’t want to get the education or you didn’t want to take it? Whatever the case may be, you got to accept the fact that if you are not going to promote, you’re going to get passed up. And if you’re not happy with the people above you then help them become better. Because if you don’t, nothing’s going to change. You’re still going to be frustrated and things are never going to get to the point that you want.

Now, if you’ve got someone below you, same story. The mindset that they should have learned it in the academy or they’re going to learn it on their own is not going to get you want you truly want. Nothing’s going to change unless you decide to take some action and start developing people around you. Help them become better. It’s going to take repetition, its going to take teaching, and if you’re a parent, you’re going to understand this. You know your kid didn’t teach themselves how to wipe their own ass or go to the bathroom, tie their own shoes. You have to show them. We don’t always experience the same things in our life.

The more time we put into the people around us, above or below, to develop them the more its going to make our job easier.

This is going to help things get better and that seems to be this disconnect when it comes to mentoring. The issue is rarely the new people coming in. The issue is the people already on the job that are not wanting to do the work to help bring those people up. One day we’re all going to go on, we’re going to retire, move on to someplace else, whatever the case may be, and those new people are going take our spots. So why don’t we just help them along, share what we know, give them the knowledge that we have so that they don’t have to make the same mistakes that we did.

I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life. I try to teach those around me, give examples where I screwed up and hopefully they can learn from it because I don’t want people to make those same mistakes and I had some people along the way to help me with that also. There are times where I start to say, that’s not my job. I catch myself and realize that most of the time it actually is my job.

I’m going to ask you right now, the next time you try to tell yourself that it’s not your job, maybe it is. Maybe there’s something you can do to actually make the situation that you’re complaining about better.

The #1 Mentoring Mistake Every Firefighter Must Avoid

Morale: Who’s Responsibility?

So I figured we started off with something that seems to be a hot topic no matter where you are at or what rank you are in the fire service.

And that’s morale. Whose responsibility is it?

If you ask the guys on the floor they’re going to tell you it’s, it’s admin. Right?

If you asked the administrative chiefs they’re going to tell you its a personal choice and that’s up to the individuals on the floor.

Well I’m here to tell you they’re both right. It’s a mixture of both.

At the end of the day it’s our personal choice if we’re going to be happy. However, sometimes it’s easier than other times. So let’s talk about when it’s a personal choice.

Things are not always going to go the way you want them to. You need to look for the positives. there’s things I don’t like that go on at work. I’m not turning a blind eye to it. I’m just not concentrating on the negatives. I’m trying to focus on what I can actually effect as opposed to all the people that are very focused on things that are outside their wheelhouse or outside their control.

Staying positive is a personal choice. However, It easier for some people and it may be harder for others.

Think of going down a road. Maybe you went down the smooth road, didn’t hit many bumps in the road, didn’t have any challenges along the way. Maybe an easy career promoted every time. Didn’t have difficult team members that you had to deal with and things were easy, you know, that sounds like a smooth ride, right?

Well, what about the guy that had to go off road to get to the same destination? Maybe they had to go over some mountains, some hills through the river, however you want to look at it.

Maybe they had an overbearing boss. it’s a personal choice how they overcame it. But for one guy who was really easy because things weren’t that hard and for other people it was hard for them to stay positive because of everything they had experience. So who wins in that situation? Think of it like a video game. Hey, we both beat the game. I beat the game on easy. You beat the game hard.

That a bit of a difference. It was a little more difficult maybe for you. So you’re more resilient if that’s the case. We talk about personal choices with this and maybe what you’ve experienced effects your decisions that you make.

Now there are also environmental factors that play into our morale. When I say environmental, I mean the atmosphere you’re in at work or at home.

If that wasn’t a factor then there’d be no difference in employees when they work for different supervisors. But guess what, it’s proven time and time again that the supervisor influences the crew.

One guy could be really disgruntled and angry with one supervisor, then he goes to the other one and start succeeding.

What’s the difference? It is the atmosphere the other leader creates. It goes beyond that personal choice. So for environmental, think about when we catch a fire, what’s happens with morale? It is high.

One of my guys traveled out to another station, he was first in and he was on the pipe yesterday. We haven’t stopped hearing about it since.

Environmental factors can influence morale and make employees more excited.

What about having a tyrant boss? Will that bring morale down?

I’ve experienced it where I didn’t enjoy going to work as much because everything was being nitpicked.

That’s going to affect you. Wear you down.

How about if you’re the boss and you’ve got an insubordinate employee? that’s going to affect your morale. It’s going to be harder to stay positive at the end of the day.

You got to understand that it is a personal choice, but for some people it’s easier than others.
So it’s really hard to pass judgment on it. Everyone’s got a different level of resiliency.
It can be easy for some and challenging for others. So we have to factor that in.
So I’m going to look at this as an 80/20 factor.

Eighty percent up to us no matter what happens, it’s choice on us to stay positive.
Twenty percent can really be impacted by what’s going on in our personal lives or at work.

Whatever it may be, ask yourself, do you have an easy road or the hard road?

if you’re still positive on that hard road Bravo. Bravo to you because you had a lot harder time than others and there’s some people that give up too easily.

We all have different paths that we take.

We should understand peoples situations and try to help the situation instead of writing people off.

So for your New Year, let’s work on a little bit more empathy and not writing people off.

Just try to make the situation better because at the end of the day, a good leader asks themself, what could I have done better?

There’s always ways we can make something better, so I’m going to challenge you to work on that this year.

Morale: Who’s Responsibility?

Angry Keyboard Commandos

Yesterday, I was on the Fire Engineering Facebook Page and I came across my blog post from earlier this week:

The blog post was based on the Live Video I did this past week in our Facebook Group.

Remember “School Yard Bully”

The point of the post was to talk about the challenges we face from supervisors and subordinates who become bullies.

I”m sure we can all remember a time when a supervisor bullied us but how about a subordinate?

Let me ask you, Is insubordination bullying?

I think so. Theres better ways to go about things.

Sometimes instead of going head on with someone,
its better to flank them.

Basically, build rapport and relationship so we can influence not demand.

Well there are some interesting reactions to this blog post.

Check it out for yourself HERE

I learned awhile back never to engage responses like this.

No one is immune to opinions of others. Just remember, they are opinions from that person. They are not a true reflection of the situation.

John Lovato, Jr.

Author, Fix Your Firehouse
Creator, Company Officer Logbook
Founder, Brotherhood Coaching

I give you the Week In Review:
Tuesday

How was your Christmas?

Fun, Relaxing, Hectic, Crazy ?

Mine was fun but alot work also

lets face it though,

What worth having isnt work?

Wednesday

School Yard Bully Video
Thursday

I’m tired of wasting my time.

I’ve wasted too much time getting upset or worrying about issues.

Issues only become issues when we make them be.

How much time have you wasted worrying about things out of your control?

Imagine the possibility if i told you that when you get stressed or frustrated over something not going the way you want it…..

….its just an opportunity for you to grow by doing more.

We grow when we are stressed.

We seem to constantly try to avoid stress but this is where we push ourselves.

if little things are constantly stressing you out, then you are not pushing yourself enough.

Start watching what upsets people at work.
It can become comical how emotional people get over little things.

What little things are you getting worked up about?

Friday

Department pride starts with company pride

My Christmas gift this year to my crew was a custom helmet shield with our company number and their names on them.

They were a big hit.

I’ve actually been wanting to this for awhile and finally pulled the trigger on it.

My buddy also got the same for his crew.

They loved them too.

A guy who isn’t on his crew was present and the first thing he said was “are we allowed the have custom shields?”

This brings up a good point

There’s no policy that’s States we can or we can’t

So why worry about it

It’s ok to have company pride

You will draw attention though

Soon enough others will follow

So make sure for 2018

You put yourself out there and attract the right attention

Set the standard for your department

It’s worth it

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Angry Keyboard Commandos

Schoolyard Bully

Odds are at One point in time you’ve experienced encountering a bully by now. My nephew had been dealing with a bully in school and of course he followed what he was told and went to the teacher. Surprise nothing really ever happened with it unfortunately. It got to the point where he had to get physical and stood up to his bully.

What did he learn, well going the proper route doesn’t work and he had to stand up for himself. And a lot of times, as a child, unfortunately altercations turn physical. However as we get to become adults and we have to deal with bullies, we can’t get physical anymore. You go to jail, right?
So why am I talking about bullies? At times, a Boss can act like a bully. This is displayed when a Boss is always throwing a policy in your face to enforce instead of getting you to have buy in. But there’s another area you can experience a bully, a subordinate can be a bully also. Insubordination is nothing more than a different form of bullying.

Everyone’s got a boss. I got a boss, my battalion chiefs got a boss, my fire chief has a boss, and our city government has a boss, the public. So at the end of the day we all have to remember that we all got someone to answer to. So if you don’t want to experience your boss bullying you, don’t be insubordinate. To be a good leader, you first have to be a good follower. A lot of frustrations I see is when people forget where they’re at in the pecking order. Do you want to get things accomplished? Because you actually get a lot more done when you go with the flow and get some buy-in for things instead of bucking everything.

People aren’t going to come to you if you are always a pain in the ass. But if you try and help out, make things better then every now you’ll get to contribute your two cents to change some stuff. The higher ups might listen a little bit more. A good book to get out there is how to win friends and influence people. People are going to do what you ask when you’re friends with them and you’re nice to them as opposed to being an asshole. So channel your energy.

Don’t be a bully.
Don’t be insubordinate bully.
Don’t be a boss Bully.

Work with people.
Build your influence with people.

Schoolyard Bully

Week In Review 1720: Surprising Life Lesson From Blue Bloods

Earlier today I was watching Blue Bloods as I was feeding my son Liam. I just started the show, so I’m on the first season.

One of the most interesting scenes is where Tom Selleck’s Character mentions that there is no opportunity without risk.

That’s really a lot like how we all act in the fire service. Think about a house fire. We take a risk for the opportunity to save a life and property.

How about when we try to improve things?

Theres an opportunity for a better way but theres risk.

Risk of putting ourselves out there. Risk of being disliked.
Risk of failing.

Don’t let risk deter an opportunity for something great though.

Maybe I’m geeking out on this a bit…

But when you’re as immersed as I am into the job you just start seeing these little lessons everywhere… even in popular shows.

I write a lot more about taking risks for a great opportunity in Fix Your Firehouse. Check it out here

John Lovato, Jr.

Author, Fix Your Firehouse
Creator, Company Officer Logbook
Founder, Brotherhood Coaching

I give you the Week In Review:
Monday

“Show Me The Results”

This is your new “go to” response” when dealing with resistance, naysayers, and the status quo.

Repeat after me:

“Show me the results”

You see this phrase is all about facts, not opinion.

You are making your opponent step onto the playing field and perform.

There’s no hiding.

Produce the result or shut the fuck up.

Those of us who are trying to make things better know that we must produce results to get buy in.

However the status quo thinks their opinion is enough.

No more.

Push them onto the playing field and out of the cheap seats with the following phrase:

“Show me the results”

Tuesday

“We’re under attack”

Is this how you feel when you put yourself out there?

Is this why you dont put yourself out there?

I’ve been witness to this soo many times and i’m sure you have also.

Someone, maybe even you, is trying to make things better and the whole time they are working hard….

Someone else is bashing everything they do.

What if i told you that once you understand why….

You’ll never worry about what others say about you.

Think of it like an urban city.

If you are trying to make yourself or your surroundings better, its like building a tall building.

Soon you’ll be taller than all the other buildings.

So the only way to be equal to you is to big a bigger building…

OR

The easier way.

Tear all the other buildings down.

This is exactly what happens.

The HATERS

Wont put the work in to make things better

So they take the easy way, and tear others down.

Remember this next time you’re victim to being torn down

OR

The next time you find yourself tearing another person down.

Wednesday

“Speed of Implementation”

Watch Video Here
Thursday

Remember when life seemed simpler

When what we focused on was which bar are we going to tonight

Then we get older and what more

We want to promote
We want a family

Things get more complicated

I know i’ve struggled as things get more complicated
I cant go to the gym whenever i want
I cant just take off without packing everyone up
or maybe its finding a sitter for the dogs…..yes dogs….3 big ones…anyone want them??

The point is, the more you want, the more complicated things may get

so you have to adapt

I started waking up super early just to get to the gym before my wife went to work

That evolved into me building a gym in my garage….I was waking up too damn early

Having a family is hard

But what in your life worth having hasnt been hard?

As much as we dont like change, we really have to change if we want to continue to grow

This morning there was a million things i wanted to do….rocking my fussing son wasnt one of them…

that wasnt his fault though
it was mine
for focusing on other things instead of him

I learned a lesson this morning

At times, what we focus on is what is frustrating us

if i was focusing on my son this morning, i wouldnt have been so frustrated

Watch what you focus on.
It might be the cause of all your headaches

Friday

WINNING

Its easy to focus on where we fail

Lets focus on our wins

What is something that you can celebrate a win in?

Maybe its changing a hoseload to make a quicker deployment….

Developed a program that betters morale

How about finally getting the Chiefs to buy into something you have been working very hard on

Whatever the win is

Week In Review 1720: Surprising Life Lesson From Blue Bloods

Week in Review 1719

Well Christmas is right around the corner. Are you ready?

I’ll be ordering some sweat pants just so I can enjoy the feasts that will be served.

You may or may not know, but i’ve been off work on FMLA since the birth of my son in October.

I just got off the phone with one of the guys on my crew and I let him know I was coming back on Dec 30th.

I told him I was excited to come back and work on some better training for us, he was pumped too and said he was looking forward to me coming back.

I’ll tell you what, thats what its all about.

You wanting to be at work with your crew and them wanting you there.

Anyways, here is this weeks highlights:
Monday

I’ve talked in the past about stories that we tell ourselves.
These stories help us make sense of what is going on in our lives.
These stories aren’t always 100% true though, even though we believe them to be.
These stories can makes excuses why we can’t do something or enable us to hold anger for someone.
What stories do you consistently tell yourself that you think may be holding you back?
Tuesday
Making life happen

How many of you have a morning routine?

This would be specific actions you take to better yourself every morning before you begin your day at work or being home.

As I’ve gotten older and busier, a morning routine has been key for me to continue learning and staying healthy.

Taking care of yourself is easy when it’s just you. Throw in a spouse and children and you’re in a whole different playing field.

Wednesday
There are things that get me pissed

At times these thoughts pop in my head:
They shoulda….
Why should I have to….

What do those thoughts make happen though?

Nothing but discontent and no action

The more we dwell on an issue
Or
Who should be the one to do something

The more we make ourselves miserable and the issue is still not addressed

So you can continue down this spiral

Or

You can choose to take action despite your negative thoughts and reach your goal.

Thursday
You’ve changed.

Think back to how you saw things 10, 15, 20 years ago.

Do you see things the same way now?

Probably not.

You have changed by growing.
You grew from experiences you had and knowledge you learned.

The fastest way to grow ourselves is through continually learning.

When we continually learn, we update the software in our brains so we can operate as our best selves.

Think about some of the trouble makers or naysayers you work with.

Do they continually learn to better themselves or are they stuck on the same problem for the past 10 years?

Complaining about something that you know they could fix themselves, but they just don’t see it that way.

So they wallow in their own self pity and continually stay miserable.

Being happy and being miserable is a choice we make from the way we look at things.

Update your software.
Continue to learn.

Friday
Who’s up for a challenge today?

Here’s the deal….

It’s very easy to get caught up and frustrated over trivial issues.

Guess what though?

You’re not really that bothered by the small issue, you’re bothered by the triggered emotion that the small issue released.

Now that you’re aware of this.

Spend today observing yourself and others.

See what makes you or others get upset

Is it really that big of a deal?

Is it something you can even control?

Don’t let your emotions get worked up, just observe.

John Lovato, Jr.

Author, Fix Your Firehouse
Creator, Company Officer Logbook
Founder, Brotherhood Coaching

Week in Review 1719

Becoming A Better Version Of Yourself

Hello brotherhood coaching. Now you have to answer some questions before you’re approved to join. There are three questions that I ask you to get a better idea of what you want out of the group to give me a better idea of what to give to everyone so we all can keep progressing. I like it. And you know, that’s the way to get in. If you don’t ask questions, you’re not getting it. So just because people request to enter this group doesn’t mean you make it. I’d make sure that everyone is a fireman and it looks like they’re going to be a good fit. So today’s video is going to be about becoming a better version of yourself because you have to want it. If you’re going to do it and it really starts with an end goal.

Where do you want to see yourself? Then you have to create the daily disciplines or habits and keep repeating them and then you’re going to get closer and closer. Just like working out, you can’t go to the gym one day and be as fit as you want to be. You can’t go read one book and just be done with it. You can’t go to one fire and have all the experience, you have to keep gaining the experience. And really it’s, it’s a never ending journey. So the biggest thing is, what do you want? You want to be better, to have a better work life balance and relationships at home. Do you want to work on your mindset or being a better fireman. Maybe if you’re teaching or coaching, whatever the case may be, make yourself better. So you got to come up with these little daily habits. Repeat that constantly. Think of the daily habits as step forward. You know, there’s a book called how do you eat an elephant, one bite at a time. Well, how you reach the goal? It’s going to be one step at a time everyday. Repeat it and you’re closer and closer.

Lot of people get discouraged though because they don’t see the progress. So that’s where you have to set yourself up some little wins along the way. You can go, Hey, I’m getting closer, or no, I’m not. This could be keeping tallies of your workouts. I’m actually benching more, squatting more, or as able to do this in a better timeframe and I feel better. With work, it’s seeing things go a little bit more your way or people coming to you going, hey, what book do you think we should have on this promotional exam? Or what training should we put on? At home, maybe it’s the way your spouse is treating or your kids are acting around you. So the other part is set up these little goals that you have to collect low-hanging fruit. I’m actually getting closer to this and it keeps you going.

Otherwise a lot of times we will get frustrated and quit because we don’t see the progress right away. Nothing happens right away. So the biggest thing right now, I want you to ask yourself what do you want, know when you will get there, and how you can score your progress. Start today.. Stop making excuses. You’re not going to do it tomorrow. Start today and do what you can with what you have. Maybe you got some type of injuries. You can’t work out as hard. You do what you can do.

One thing I’ve learned along the way is its never going to be the right time. if you wanna wait til things are perfect, you’re never going to do it. So just start and then you make it better along the way. Maybe it’s, the way you write, the way you teach, whatever it is. When I first started teaching, I really didn’t know what I was doing. I had instructor 1, that didn’t teach me how to teach, what taught me how to teach was teaching, and then actually getting with a group of guys that are better teachers and mirroring them and then make my own style along the way. Practice makes perfect, so the more you do something the better you’ll be at it.

Becoming A Better Version Of Yourself