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Ways to Succeed With Managing Stress

In this episode,I discuss using healthy habits to manage the unstoppable stress of life. So if you want to feel less stressed, be happier, and enjoy life better so you can how to mange stress in a healthy way, tune in now!

In this episode, you’ll discover:

Episode Title: “Ways to Succeed With Managing Stress”

– Unhealthy ways

– Healthy ways

– The FULL cup example

 

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This episode is going to be all about managing the stress that we have.
 
[00:54] So we need to come up with good ways to manage what happens to us. there’s that saying out there that says, you know, don’t ask for an easier life. Ask for stronger shoulders to carry the burden with it.
 
stress is going to keep happening and it’s inevitable, it’s not going to stop.
 
We have to come up with good ways to manage it so it doesn’t overwhelm us.
 
what we’re learning is that some of the calls that we go on and becomes cumulative. in my earlier years stuff never bothered me and I’ve gotten older and had a family.
 
[01:39] especially dealing with young kids. you see people your age that something happens. You can relate to them. it’s a reminder of life short and, and bad things can happen because we have to appreciate the thing.
 
So how do we go about managing the stress? And there’s all different ways out there.
 
You know, I’m not a doctor, not trained in it, but I can share with what has helped me and what I’ve learned. I, I like to try different things out and see what’s going to help me out. And um, you know, there, there’s two ways to handle. There’s healthy ways and I don’t know, healthy ways.
 
So I want to talk about the unhealthy way first. and some of the unhealthy could be your short term at helps on the short term and what am I talking about?
 
[02:24] I’m talking about hitting the bottle and the bottle or pills or whatever else. Something that’s prescribed it. It’s, it’s, um, what it is, is it, it’s an, it numbs it, right? The stress is still there. Once the effects wear off or whatever was taken to help cope with it.
 
they say everything in moderation is okay. It’s just when it starts compounding some things. It’s a short term relief, it actually doesn’t solve the issue of managing the stress. So, so think of it as numbing when he takes up resort to something like that.
 
[03:08] It’s just, it just numbs it, right? It doesn’t go away, but there’s healthy ways and that’s why I want to focus on with this and I’m just going to give a few takeaways.
 
A lot of this is going to be trial and error on your part. what I found three main ones and then there’s other things I do, but I’m going to keep this about some three examples. And one of the biggest which is, um, I think he is going to be what we eat. How are we consuming food, you know, are we focusing on. And everyone’s got different ways of eating. Basically you gotta eat away, that’s gonna make you feel better. And what I found with me as I stick with whole foods as possible. , if I can’t grow it in my garden, if I can’t catch it in the water or find it on a farm, trying not to eat it.
 
[03:54] I worked with a guy and he has gone Vegan and he says he , his energy’s through the roof and he just feels better. So that worked for him. Um, I cooked up some really delicious steaks yesterday. staying away from your process stuff because it’s full of a lot of sugar and extra ingredients that you don’t realize. And here’s the thing, you don’t realize it until you start eating better of how much better your field. And um, but we had to start doing stuff to help us because we can’t resort to think of someone else is going to solve our problems. So these are key things to do. So focusing on how you’re consuming what you’re eating, right? Stick with as healthy as possible.
 
[04:32] Everyone’s got different definitions of it. Mine’s gonna be simple, stick with whole foods, you know, stuff you can grow or hunting. Um, and after that’s going to come exercise, there’s so many different ways out there. The biggest thing with exercise though is going to be doing whatever you enjoy because you have to do this regularly. Um, it’s not something due once a week. It’s, it’s ideally every day. Maybe it’s lifting weights, maybe it’s running, swimming, doing a sport, cycling, whatever it is. You have to find something that you’re gonna, break a sweat your heart rate up. If you’re not getting your heart rate up, you’re not getting the true benefits of it. focus on your diet and focus on exercising regularly. , some of the guys that seem to have a lot of problems are the ones who aren’t doing these good activities.
 
[05:18] And the third big one is meditation. And I’m going to give you guys an example of when you combine all three of these, how it goes. So I explored meditation back probably over four years ago and I’ve been doing it regularly ever since.. I practice a transcendental meditation. you can even be as simple as getting an APP though. listening to binaural beats sends you in like almost a rem sleep. set a timer so you don’t fall asleep and spend there an hour. that’s a quick way if you have trouble meditating, there’s training programs go through with it, but it’s something that if you’re not already doing, I strongly suggest you explore that. And so what happens when we put all three of these together? Quality in life, you know, I was talking about how stress is never going to stop.
 
[06:09] There’s always going to be something that happens and it’s going to push you over the limit. So think of it like this. I got a cup of water here, and if you’re not having the built in ways to help manage it and you’re talking about diet, exercise, and meditation, any little thing that happens to you, it’s going to push you over the edge. And when you get pushed over the edge, you lose your temper. You get upset, the cup over pills, right? That’s kind of like if you hear someone, hey, they got a short fuse but probably stressed and they’re not able to manage it well, so every little thing spills over causing the issues. So if you’re resorting to two, um, alcohol or some other things on a regular basis, there’s still overflowing, right? But it’s numb. So we need to come up with ways to manage it. As we said before, stuffs always gonna. Keep happening.
 
[06:59] So if you, if you try and keep that healthy lifestyle, your diet exercise, it’s going to work that well with that one. I’m giving sample. Here we go. So when you have your diet, eating right, exercise and meditation, stress is still gonna happen, right? But hopefully you’re doing all of that because if you get a good balance of it, your cups never going to overfill because the meditation exercise and your diet is going to constantly help you manage your stress. Keep it low enough so when more stuff happens, you’re not going to overflow because you’re able to manage it and keep it flowing. So that’s my little example. I hope you guys got something out of this and if you have any questions you can always shoot me a message. I prefer it to be in our facebook group Brotherhood coaching because this way we can share the message to other people.
 
[07:50] And um, so once again, guys stresses always. It’s never going to go away. It’s going to keep happening to us. We got to figure out healthy ways to manage it and not rely on just other people to know, I have this issue. What are you doing to help you? Because at the end of the day I learned this from a retired detective and a on a trip to Vegas in my early twenties. He goes, hey, and in the day, no one else is gonna. Look after you like you will. So look after yourselves and come up with these good habits. Help manage the stress you have. And do me a favor. If you liked this, he get something out of it. Share it on with somebody else who will appreciate it too.

Ways to Succeed With Managing Stress

What Really Upsets Me… Tips for How To Manage Being Triggered

In this episode, I discuss what really upsets me and how to manage the triggers that upset us.

The three main points I go over are:

  1. How I allow myself to get upset and lose my cool
  2. How to look for a lesson in everything
  3. Do not compare yourself to others.  Strive to be better than you were the day before

For more tips on managing your triggers in your firehouse, check out The Squad House

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[00:02] Have you ever gotten tired of being sick and tired and getting frustrated?
 
What I want to share with you is the one thing that really ticks me off.
 
what ticks me off the most is that I allow myself to get upset and frustrated. I get upset over things that I may not have control over or things that are outside my realm of influence.
 
that is what bothers me. I know I’m in control of how I respond to things yet I let them bother me.
 
You see when we lose our cool, we get upset, we feel like we’re out of control.
 
So the one way to correct that is to stay in control of your emotions. I used to think that learning and implementing different habits was going to stop myself from losing my cool.
 
[00:57] And what I found was it doesn’t because we were more emotional, right? You’re still gonna have those triggers that are going to happen to you. You start to learn to control them a little bit. You get frustrated a little bit less. you when you lose your cool, you not thrown anything, you’re just kinda getting a little bothered and you get over it. You start to just, it’s like you’re coming along and then you get frustrated, you get a little dip and you correct and your back. You’re good. Where if you’re not trying to take control of your emotions are or have some good habits to deal with that then you kind of hit that low and you stay down and that’s when you get miserable. And you see people like that, you know, nothing. Nothing can go good there.
 
[01:35] Just always miserable and no one wants to be around them, right? Because they can’t get back out and recorrect. So the thing is though, don’t beat yourself up. Right. Um, and I was starting to do that and I, you know, because I’m like, hey, why am I getting upset? I shouldn’t be. Well, you’re going to, but just don’t stay ticked off you correct.
 
You find there, because there’s, there’s a lesson in everything that happens to us, look for the lesson learned from it, and then correct it and do what you can to make things better because you should really only try to be a little bit better than you were yesterday.
 
Don’t compare yourself to somebody else because you don’t know what’s going on in their life. You have no ideal. Everything in my life know stuff might look cool here, but you know, I got some issues over here.
 
[02:14] We all do. So don’t compare yourself to other people. Just try to be a little bit better than you were yesterday. Maybe work out a little harder today than you did yesterday. Be a little bit nicer today than you were maybe to some people yesterday. So the only competition you have is actually just to be a little bit better than you were the person the day before. So hope you got something out of this. And um, if you did, do me favor and share it up with somebody else.

What Really Upsets Me… Tips for How To Manage Being Triggered

Foundations of Overcoming The “NO”

In this episode, I discuss overcoming resistance by the decision makers to implement change that you want.

  1. you want to Sell
    Facts tell, stories sell,
  2. Effort
    how hard did you try?
    Do More
  3. A confused mind will always say no
    Be Clear
    Keep it simple
    Don’t give up

For more tips on creating a culture change in your firehouse, check out my free book at https://fixyourfirehouse.com.

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This episode is going to be about overcoming the no.
 
So what am I talking about? I’m talking about you’re trying to drive some change. You’re trying to make a situation better. Unfortunately you’re getting told no by someone who actually is a decision maker. So what I want to do is talk about overcoming that resistance because a lot too often a passionate people here. No, they get shot down and then they close up close up shop and they’re done.
 
They check out and that’s not the best way of going about it.
What you may not know is I get told no way more than I get told yes. I’ve had thoughts, ideas. I come up and either comes down to money or someone putting in the work for whatever it is.
And I get told no. But what I’ve learned is how to start getting the yeses. And what it really comes down to is, is part number one is what this is, is you have to sell.
 
I used to have a guy on my crew and he made a very good living selling mattresses and furniture. He would tell us some of the lines he had of how to make sales. It’s about giving that other person an emotional aha. So a good way for this is understand this facts tell, but stories sell for some reason.
 
You want to make that change. Well, something happened to you there. You had the epiphany moment, the Aha, and you realize, hey, this is a best practice. So you have to give that experience to the person you’re trying to sell.
 
If you can give that experience to them then they’re going to come to the same conclusion you did.
 
So remember that facts tell stories sell. You have to sell whatever you’re doing to them and using stories helps with that.
 
The second part is effort. How hard you actually try.
 
Did you volunteer to do the work?
Did you do all the leg work to where you brought the proposal to them and said, hey, this is what’s going to cost.
So you have to ask yourself, have you done enough?
What more can you do with that?
 
You can always do more in a situation with it. you can convince them, Hey, this is the best practice. Hey, I found a grant that’s cannot take care of those of us money.
 
The third thing is to understand is that a confused mind will always say no.
 
You have to speak in a way so others can understand clearly.
Speak at a level where someone understands because if they’re confused at all about what you’re trying to present, they’re going to say no.
 
So make sure you’re clear.
 
keep things simple as they can be.
 
Don’t have complicated processes and don’t give up. It’s only when you give up that the answer is always going to be no. He might get a not right now. No. Which means you got to come back to table and present a different way.
 
So you really had to be resilient with it. And don’t let it stop you.
 
Don’t let anybody take your passion away for for this job because only you can let them.

Foundations of Overcoming The “NO”

Easy Way To Push Yourself More

Let me tell you a quick story about a group of people who made me feel like I could contribute more. Also, what you can learn from it.

This was some years ago. I started getting a little bit more involved with training in my county. At these trainings, I met a group of individuals who made me look like I wasn’t that into the job and I wasn’t passionate.

These guys were skilled in their craft. They were spending a lot of time training other people. They were spreading their expertise throughout the whole county. While most stick to their station and department, these guys took it one step further.

And after I met these people … I didn’t meet ’em all at once, I met them at some different trainings and events. I started to realize that … I wasn’t living up to my full potential. I could do more. What I thought was enough wasn’t enough. I could actually do more just by following the example they were setting.

They actually showed me that I could be a better firefighter and I could also be a better man. I had a good start with this by training myself more. I did this by going to more conferences, getting more involved in the fire service, and giving more. I was giving more by training those around me.

It’s very easy to fall into a category that you think you’re doing enough. You do not realize this until you surround yourself with other people who are doing more than you.

So it almost makes you push the envelope a little bit. And I’ll give you some examples.

I don’t know if you’ve ever gone to a Crossfit-style gym before. This is where they do group workouts. When you do a workout in a group, you start to push yourself more. You actually push a little more than you would on your own.

The same thing goes when you were in sports, in high school or college, or you still play some sports now. When you’re in a group and everyone’s pushing yourself, you do a little bit more. You do more than the status quo of things.

I’d like to ask you, where does this replicate in your own life?

What I want you to take away from this is you need to surround yourself with people who are actually going to push you.

So this actually means that you pretty much, you need a support group.

This support group is not always about bouncing problems off each other. It’s about pushing each other to do a little bit more than you did the day before. Pushing each other to do a little bit more than you did the year before.

You would be surprised what you are capable of when you surround yourself with like minded individuals.

Here’s the next step as it relates to what you and I just shared.

Joining my coaching program The Squad House, is going to be an element that I want you to think about.

It is comprised of people who will push you.

The Squad House can be the group who believes in you and shows you how you can be more than you think you can be.

Learn More HERE

Easy Way To Push Yourself More

“How to How To Stay Positive And Make Everything Work Better At Work And In Life Like a Pro”

In this post, I discuss doing the opposite of what most do when they get frustrated.

So if you want to be happier, solve the issues they are having, and keep high morale of their crew so you can how to stay positive and make everything work better at work and in life, keep reading!

In this post, you’ll discover:

– The major misconceptions about problem solving that cause firefighters to take the wrong path and waste months, if not years, of effort

– The perfect mindset every firefighter should have about problem solving that virtually guarantees their success

What misconception am I talking about? If you’ve been on the job any length of time, you’ve experienced frustration with ranks above you. What was your response to your frustration?

Did you disengage?
Call it quits?

OR

Did you help get the result you wanted by doing more work than you thought you should have to?
Did you regroup and flank the decision maker to get buy in to whatever you wanted?

Unfortunately, most of us disengage when we get frustrated.

We throw our hands up and go through the motions.

This won’t get the results we want.

To get what we want, we have to do the work necessary to achieve it.

No mater what our opinion is of what we should or should not have to do.

I say this because when I’ve gotten frustrated and quit, I never got what I wanted.

However, when I’ve decided to do more work than maybe I think I should have to, I ended up getting that result I wanted.

This job is too great not to enjoy it. I hate seeing frustrated firefighters.

This is why I created the book “Fix Your Firehouse”.

To provide a template for others to follow to be successful.

If you don’t have it yet and are interested, I’m offering it for FREE right now.

Just click HERE.

Anyways, this was just a short segment from the video I did on this very subject.

Watch the whole video HERE.

“How to How To Stay Positive And Make Everything Work Better At Work And In Life Like a Pro”

“Ways to Succeed With Getting Buy In For Change”

In this post, I discuss Implementing change with little resistance.

So if you want to make change without hearing bitching, make your department better, and experience less headaches, keep reading!

– What looks like resistance is often a lack of clarity.
– If you want people to change, you must provide crystal-clear direction
– What looks like a people problem is often a situation problem
– Why, What, How
– Examples
– first thing apparatus checks
– riding assignments
– Hose load

The problem is communicating to the receiver in a teaching scenario. You have to teach at the person’s understanding level that they’re at. You cannot teach at your understanding level. If you are teaching something, then you most likely have a great deal of knowledge and experience in the subject. Whoever the students are most likely do not have much knowledge or experience in that area. This is why it is crucial to teach at the level of understanding that they have.

Another problem area is how clear we think we are communicating. We think we’re clear and guess what, we’re not, that’s why I do expectations with every crew member. That’s why I have rules of engagement. That’s why I send out a daily agenda. It’s a lot of repetitiveness but when you’re repeating the same thing it becomes more clear. So if people aren’t doing what you want it is most likely because you’re not being as clear with what you want ask you think you are.

When its all said and done, if you get the environment right, you’re going to produce quality results.

Get the rest of the episode HERE.

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“Ways to Succeed With Getting Buy In For Change”

“Caring For Your People Advice Every Check The Box Leadership Certifications Hater Will LOVE!”

In this post, I discuss the book: Everybody Matters: The Extraordinary Power of Caring for Your People Like Family and I discuss caring for your people so you can build a high performing team.

So if you want to all out effort, all in attitude, and have fun at work so you can how to get the most out of those around them, keep reading!

Below are the top 5 highlights I had from the book.

– We are social animals and we respond to the environments we’re in.

– We are going to measure success by the way we touch the lives of people.

– Good parenting and good leadership are virtually identical.

– Treat each employee the way you would like your kids to be treated where they work.

– Be patient with those who don’t “get it”: People may have been abused by other leaders. Give them time and space to heal.

Now lets dive a little deeper.

“We are social animals and we respond to the environments we’re in.”
If you go put someone in a group of guys that are just negative and don’t want to do anything, not take care of themselves, you’re going to see that person start molding to that type of behavior. I’ve seen it plenty of times, I’ve also seen it on the flip side, you actually take those people and you put them with people that are motivated, like they work out every day on to training and it really amped about it. You’re going to start seeing those people form to that behavior. So atmosphere plays a big part. It goes along with the nature versus nurture thing. Atmosphere is a big influence. Now you can resist the negativity, but it’s harder, right? If you’re around the good stuff, it’s going to be easier for you to be good and keep that positivity with it.

“We are going to measure success by the way we touch the lives of people”.
So how do you measure success? Some people measure success by the size of their bank account. Some measure their success by how many bugles they have. Imagine the possibilities if we measure success by how many people we’ve helped? Thats a pretty big impact in my book.

“Good parenting and good leadership are virtually identical.”
Parenting and good leadership are virtually identical, I talked about this in my book Fix Your Firehouse
You have to be patient with kids and you have to be patient to be a good leader. Both require you to understand the situation and listen.

If you would like to get the whole story, you can head over to youtube and watch the video by clicking here.

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Influencing People Basics Every Firefighter Needs

The basics that we need to help start influencing people and how to get rid of that negativity that’s going on.

So a real simple response to negativity is Misery loves company, so don’t engage in it.

It’s hard, you know, these might be simply answers, but they’re hard to do and that’s why most people don’t do it. The first thing is don’t go down the rabbit hole of negativity. Try and maintain yourself positive, especially if you’re the leader of a group because the minute you go down that negative route, your crew’s going to start following it. So the first step is you don’t go down that road.

A next step is start reframing some of the conversations with people focusing on what’s working as opposed to what is not working.

Busy crews rarely become negative. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve become busier. I have different concerns and different stressors. Little things that used to bother me in my twenties, I could care less right now. Go out and train in your first due area, learn your buildings, do some fire behavior videos, build some props together, whatever it may be. The busier you keep yourself doing result driven activities, the better off things are going to get. Well, Keep your crew busy doing stuff that’s actually making them better and feel good, so they feel accomplished after they do it. Not just, cleaning the station, no one likes busy work, but if it’s going to get us to a specific better result, we’re all on board, right?

A great start to help you become a better influencer is the book “how to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie”.

I read this many years ago and what I’m actually going to do right now is go through it and talk about some of my highlights. If we started to influence people as opposed to just making demands, we’re going to get much further.

It’s going take more work to influence others. That’s why most people just try to make demands and it’s actually a self inhibited when they go that route. So let’s, let’s get to some of these highlights to share with you guys.

Criticism didn’t persuade

it’s foolish to scold.

Don’t criticize them.

They are just what we would be under similar circumstances.

if you experienced everything that person did, you’d be the same.

You’re dealing with people who were emotional creatures.

instead of condemning people, try to understand them.

Make the other person wants to do it,

Crude methods have sharply undesirable repercussions.

the deepest urge is our desire to be important, to have an audience to feel valued,

The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.

positive reinforcement, honest appreciation, got results were criticism and ridicule failed. I

The next time you’re about to make someone do something, pause and ask yourself, how can I make this person want to do it?

You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.

We are interested in others when they are interested in us. So especially if you’re the boss, get interested in your people. Someone’s going to be the one to take the first step. And to me that’s burden of leadership, to always be the one to take the first step.

Encouragement is much more effective teaching device than punishment is.

One major factor that motivated people was the work itself, so make it quality work and people are gonna want to do it. It’s much easier to get a guy to get satisfaction over, being delegated to put on a drill for his company as oppose to you’re in charge of making sure that all the trash got taken out today.

You will be the most effective when you lead by example. You must be the example for your people to follow.

I was asked once about how to keep my crew with good morale. Its a simple yet challenging task, you keep your own morale high.

Make sure to get yourself a copy of how to win friends, influence people. This is going to start the influence process for you within your fire house. It’s really going to help you level of your leadership and understanding that we get a lot further when we influence people as opposed to just making demands.

So, if you’ve got something out of this, share it with somebody else.

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Influencing People Basics Every Firefighter Needs

The #1 Mentoring Mistake Every Firefighter Must Avoid

I overheard two conversations this week that were both the number one big mistakes that I see firefighters make when it comes to mentoring. Both these guys were getting frustrated. They weren’t getting the results that they wanted.

The first ones was a guy that was complaining about the experience level of his immediate supervisor. He had more experience and the supervisor. When asked, hey, are you going to help them become better? He replied That his boss is responsible for his own experience and that it’s not his job to help him. His boss took the promotion and that’s on him. So that’s one way to look at it. Right?

The second conversation I overheard was a guy that was involved with the honor guard for his department and he was noticing that the new guys coming up didn’t seem to have that same passion for the job or understanding of the brotherhood. He stated, it’s not my job to teach them. They got to figure it out for themselves.

Two different conversations, basically talking about the same thing, both individual saying, it’s not my job. They weren’t getting the results they wanted.

So I’m here to tell you that that’s the big mistake that they don’t want to get involved to fix the issue that’s going on.

With the first guy: if you have a supervisor that is not operating at the experience level that you want, help them, train them, work with them. It was your decision not to take the promotion, either because you didn’t want to get the education or you didn’t want to take it? Whatever the case may be, you got to accept the fact that if you are not going to promote, you’re going to get passed up. And if you’re not happy with the people above you then help them become better. Because if you don’t, nothing’s going to change. You’re still going to be frustrated and things are never going to get to the point that you want.

Now, if you’ve got someone below you, same story. The mindset that they should have learned it in the academy or they’re going to learn it on their own is not going to get you want you truly want. Nothing’s going to change unless you decide to take some action and start developing people around you. Help them become better. It’s going to take repetition, its going to take teaching, and if you’re a parent, you’re going to understand this. You know your kid didn’t teach themselves how to wipe their own ass or go to the bathroom, tie their own shoes. You have to show them. We don’t always experience the same things in our life.

The more time we put into the people around us, above or below, to develop them the more its going to make our job easier.

This is going to help things get better and that seems to be this disconnect when it comes to mentoring. The issue is rarely the new people coming in. The issue is the people already on the job that are not wanting to do the work to help bring those people up. One day we’re all going to go on, we’re going to retire, move on to someplace else, whatever the case may be, and those new people are going take our spots. So why don’t we just help them along, share what we know, give them the knowledge that we have so that they don’t have to make the same mistakes that we did.

I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life. I try to teach those around me, give examples where I screwed up and hopefully they can learn from it because I don’t want people to make those same mistakes and I had some people along the way to help me with that also. There are times where I start to say, that’s not my job. I catch myself and realize that most of the time it actually is my job.

I’m going to ask you right now, the next time you try to tell yourself that it’s not your job, maybe it is. Maybe there’s something you can do to actually make the situation that you’re complaining about better.

The #1 Mentoring Mistake Every Firefighter Must Avoid

Morale: Who’s Responsibility?

So I figured we started off with something that seems to be a hot topic no matter where you are at or what rank you are in the fire service.

And that’s morale. Whose responsibility is it?

If you ask the guys on the floor they’re going to tell you it’s, it’s admin. Right?

If you asked the administrative chiefs they’re going to tell you its a personal choice and that’s up to the individuals on the floor.

Well I’m here to tell you they’re both right. It’s a mixture of both.

At the end of the day it’s our personal choice if we’re going to be happy. However, sometimes it’s easier than other times. So let’s talk about when it’s a personal choice.

Things are not always going to go the way you want them to. You need to look for the positives. there’s things I don’t like that go on at work. I’m not turning a blind eye to it. I’m just not concentrating on the negatives. I’m trying to focus on what I can actually effect as opposed to all the people that are very focused on things that are outside their wheelhouse or outside their control.

Staying positive is a personal choice. However, It easier for some people and it may be harder for others.

Think of going down a road. Maybe you went down the smooth road, didn’t hit many bumps in the road, didn’t have any challenges along the way. Maybe an easy career promoted every time. Didn’t have difficult team members that you had to deal with and things were easy, you know, that sounds like a smooth ride, right?

Well, what about the guy that had to go off road to get to the same destination? Maybe they had to go over some mountains, some hills through the river, however you want to look at it.

Maybe they had an overbearing boss. it’s a personal choice how they overcame it. But for one guy who was really easy because things weren’t that hard and for other people it was hard for them to stay positive because of everything they had experience. So who wins in that situation? Think of it like a video game. Hey, we both beat the game. I beat the game on easy. You beat the game hard.

That a bit of a difference. It was a little more difficult maybe for you. So you’re more resilient if that’s the case. We talk about personal choices with this and maybe what you’ve experienced effects your decisions that you make.

Now there are also environmental factors that play into our morale. When I say environmental, I mean the atmosphere you’re in at work or at home.

If that wasn’t a factor then there’d be no difference in employees when they work for different supervisors. But guess what, it’s proven time and time again that the supervisor influences the crew.

One guy could be really disgruntled and angry with one supervisor, then he goes to the other one and start succeeding.

What’s the difference? It is the atmosphere the other leader creates. It goes beyond that personal choice. So for environmental, think about when we catch a fire, what’s happens with morale? It is high.

One of my guys traveled out to another station, he was first in and he was on the pipe yesterday. We haven’t stopped hearing about it since.

Environmental factors can influence morale and make employees more excited.

What about having a tyrant boss? Will that bring morale down?

I’ve experienced it where I didn’t enjoy going to work as much because everything was being nitpicked.

That’s going to affect you. Wear you down.

How about if you’re the boss and you’ve got an insubordinate employee? that’s going to affect your morale. It’s going to be harder to stay positive at the end of the day.

You got to understand that it is a personal choice, but for some people it’s easier than others.
So it’s really hard to pass judgment on it. Everyone’s got a different level of resiliency.
It can be easy for some and challenging for others. So we have to factor that in.
So I’m going to look at this as an 80/20 factor.

Eighty percent up to us no matter what happens, it’s choice on us to stay positive.
Twenty percent can really be impacted by what’s going on in our personal lives or at work.

Whatever it may be, ask yourself, do you have an easy road or the hard road?

if you’re still positive on that hard road Bravo. Bravo to you because you had a lot harder time than others and there’s some people that give up too easily.

We all have different paths that we take.

We should understand peoples situations and try to help the situation instead of writing people off.

So for your New Year, let’s work on a little bit more empathy and not writing people off.

Just try to make the situation better because at the end of the day, a good leader asks themself, what could I have done better?

There’s always ways we can make something better, so I’m going to challenge you to work on that this year.

Morale: Who’s Responsibility?